Why Boys shouldn’t cry?

I never used to think of this in my childhood. This came off to my mind after I entered college. Being a boy you should not cry. This is what I learnt in collegeL. People will judge you and you will get some nick names. Avoid crying openly in front of class mates as much as you can, if you can’t control your tears then cry when no one is seeing.

During school days I used to cry for all small things and no one used to judge me based on my emotional outbursts. But once you enter college you have to be strong enough to face all the difficulties life throws at you (Though mainly semester exam results ). There were some tough subjects I never used to understand head and tail of it. Engineering drawing was one such subject. Those three dimensional pictures, pyramids, prisms (was it there, I don’t even remember)It was one big night mare to face that exam. I some how managed to appear for the exam, results were out in few days and I had scored stamping 35 marks, instead of beaming with joy for clearing this paper in first attempt I was crying. Thank god no one saw me crying otherwise I would have been nick named as cry baby.

I got used to my inabilities to score good marks in engineering. So during following years I never cried even after getting many stamps (That’s why people say circumstances make you strong J )

Alas here comes the day when you have to say adieu to all your classmates, friends of 4 years and your teachers. On that day before leaving house I had made up my mind not to cry. I uttered to myself looking at the mirror “ I am a strong person, I am not going to cry” 3-4 times.

When I reached the college to attend our Branch function called SPECTRUM, all friends were busy preparing for the function.  Function started at around 7.00 (There was strict order from our HOD to finish before 9.00 PM)There was this one guy in our class whom we used to call as BANNA (color) who was anchoring that evening programme. He was strong enough to give a thank you speech in the end and started singing the song “KABHI ALVIDA NA KEHNA….KABHI ALVIDA NA KEHNA” a hindi song which means never say bye.

Holy shit where is this tears coming from….thank god I was not the only one crying on that day, there were others too who were crying inconsolably. I escaped one more chance of getting called by people as cry baby.

During job days I rarely got a chance to show my emotional side to my colleagues. This doesn’t mean all I had was a happy days, there were instances during recession where my closest of close friends were laid off. Those times I cried to myself .

Next time I cried was in my sister’s wedding. Knowing my weakness my sister-in-law warned me not to cry on the wedding day. To cheer me up even she had put a bet of 1000 bugs between me and my sister, whoever cries first has to pay the amount to the other.

Bang here comes the emotional moment I was sitting inside the room hiding from all the emotional drama going on in the mantap , and priest is calling out my name to say good bye to my sister. Soon after seeing me my sister started crying loudly, then my mother, father, uncles and aunts. Crap I hate this. I don’t want to be the reason for their tearsL.

Then for almost 3 years after my sister’s marriage even I had forgotten how to cry. I thought all my tears had dried up, but alas not  !!

The day when my wife was in labor pain, here comes the man otherwise supposed to be happy is crying along with his wife. I could not see my wife crying in that pain…all I could do was holding her palm tight and pressing it gently. I didn’t ask whether it helped her or not.

After 15 minutes i was holding my little prince with tears rolling down my cheek !!!!
Can anybody explain why boy's should not cry ?